Anniversary still difficult for Moxleys
By Cameron D. Martin - Greenwich Time
For Dorthy Moxley, the Halloween season is a time to be among family.
Last night the mother and grandmother was to have baby-sat for her grandchildren in New Jersey, spending the early part of the day attending swim meets and soccer matches. Committed to keeping herself busy, the mother of Martha and John Moxley says the anniversary of her daughter's death is the most trying time of the year.
"It's always bad, always depressing. This time, like I do all the time, I keep very, very busy," she said in an interview Wednesday.
Since January the Chatham, N.J., resident has at times busied herself traveling between home and the state Superior Court in Stamford, where former neighbor Michael Skakel was arraigned as a juvenile in March for the murder of Martha Moxley on Halloween eve 1975. Dorthy and John Moxley have attended all subsequent hearings, as State's Attorney Jonathan Benedict continues outlining the case against Skakel.
A quarter-century after her daughter's brutal murder, through periods of hope and despair in the investigation and recent steps toward possible justice, Dorthy Moxley remains an optimistic, "glass-is-half-full" kind of person.
"Today, I'm still optimistic about finding justice. I still remember the times when we didn't have any hope at all, but those seem very far behind now.
"Telling people that our daughter had been killed and that there was nothing we could do É that was depressing.
"In the beginning we had hope, but then it dwindled."
Skakel's indictment brings a re-focus to the past and to a daughter taken in an untimely and heinous fashion, but Dorthy Moxley refuses to consider the life her daughter might have fashioned for herself. Martha, like Skakel, would be 40 years old now.
"I don't think about that at all. I try not to do that. It doesn't get me any place, it just makes me feel bad," she said.
"I'm a glass-is-half-full person, so I don't want to beat myself up. I'm busy counting my blessings, not thinking 'What of, could of, or should have?' "
Last Friday, Dorthy and John Moxley were in state Superior Court in Stamford as Benedict and Skakel defense attorney Michael Sherman argued for and against transferring the case from juvenile to adult court.
If the case is kept in juvenile court, Benedict said Skakel would face such an insignificant penalty that it may not be worth the trauma to the victim's family.
Dorthy Moxley said Wednesday that the family is considering civil action against Skakel if the case remains in juvenile court.
"I'm not going to get this far and just drop it, that's for sure," she said.
Following last Friday's hearing, in keeping with all her trips to the area, Dorthy Moxley visited the graves of her daughter and husband, David, both of whom are buried in Putnam Cemetery in Greenwich.
"I make it a point," she said.